12.28.2011

Let This Be A Lesson...

this pic has nothing to do with this post

I've had something on my mind for quite a while now, and instead of letting it fester inside, I'm getting it off my chest. Some of you will laugh, and some of you won't read this at all, but I'll feel better having said it. This is something that has happened to me time and time again and I'm sick of it. Example: I had someone leave a comment with a typo about  loving my "eye scrub" recipe. There was no eye scrub mentioned in the post (who the heck would want an eye scrub? Ouch!). I had 8 others who left comments about this imaginary "eye scrub." Skip to the comments much? Let me share a story...

When I first started blogging, I made a personal goal of visiting 10 blogs a day. One afternoon, I clicked on one blog and saw pics of a beautiful girl at her wedding and lots and lots of text. In order to hurriedly meet my quota, I skipped the post and went straight for the comments. I saw a congratulatory comment and I followed suit.

And then I got an email I will never forget.

The beautiful girl at her wedding emailed me to tell me the post was NOT about her wedding, but about her husband who had just been killed in a car accident. If I had taken the time to actually read the post, instead of just hurrying to comment/copying a comment, I would've saved myself a horrible gaffe. Despite my apologetic emails and sincere comments, she never visited my blog, responded to my messages, and I didn't blame her one bit.

I learned a lesson that day and I hope you did too.

If someone takes the time to write a post, take the time to read it.


Don't copy someone's comment. Read the post first.

It is ALWAYS obvious when you don't read a post. ALWAYS.

And the sad thing is, the ones who are guilty of doing this, are the ones who stopped reading about two sentences in and instead will leave me a comment about books.

I'm grateful for each and every one of you who take the time to visit and/or leave a thoughtful comment, and so many of your comments make me smile from ear to ear. I can't thank you enough.

Developing a thick skin is part of blogging, but sometimes too much is too much. I am an emotional human, and I love sharing those feelings with you. But those insincere comments have also taught me a lesson: plot/plan/work on improving my blog. I have so many things to share with you in 2012.


I hope you join me.



98 comments:

  1. I know exactly what you mean, I've been guilty of just skimming posts myself in the past but I HATE how I feel when I get comments like that, along with the ones that people leave on every blog:

    "luv the post, check out my blog!"

    or even better getting one of these even when you have no photos:
    "luv the photos! follow me"

    http://www.closet-fashionista.com

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  2. That's terrible! It happened to me once i comment something on a blog that was not for that specific blog... weird :s

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  3. Sadly, I'm sure I've done that before. And I've had it done to me.

    I'm with you in not making that mistake again.

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  4. How sad, but a good lesson...and I'm sure many have made this mistake before. I have. People have congratulated me on my neice when it was a nephew. It's a tough balance, sometimes people comment and I read it, but end up not responding until a week later. I need to quit my job to blog ;)

    Great post! Looking forward to 2012 and some good blogging!

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  5. Oh man that kinda sucks! I try my hardest to actually read what people say on their blogs, and this is a great reminder of why that is so important! We all get busy and skim at times, but we should all read the words that someone takes the time to write. They are important to the writer!

    Love this post!

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  6. This was a really great post... It really made me think and I'm ashamed to admit that I have done this before and I know that it's been done to me. It really does take something away from what makes blogging special. Thank you for making me think...
    -Jenny

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  7. I know exactly what you mean. However, its definitely something that happens in the blogging world. Thank you for following my blog and reminding me about the sincerity of blogging <333 I've followed you back!

    xoxojc
    anurban-explorer.blogspot.com

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  8. What a crazy and touching story. See, I think a large part about life is learning and having second chances. Sometimes we need a wake up call to get to that point. This is a great cautionary tale to all bloggers. I once knew a blogger who posted pictures of her holding her baby after giving birth. Except the baby was still born and ALL these people kept commenting on how lucky she was and congratulations because they did not take the time to read the post. So sad. But she had a good attitude about it despite the circumstances.

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  9. I wish there were more posts like this one. I am still in the honeymoon phase of blogging and I get so excited when people leave quick, nice little comments, but this post has made me view commenting in a different way. I have always read a post before commenting, and I will definitely continue to do so. Thanks for the lesson!

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  10. I completely agree. I have gotten a number of comments that are quite obviously from skimmers or people who barely read the title, never mind the post. I don't let it bother me too much, because I certainly don't think that everyone needs to take the time out of their day to read and comment on what I write, but I'm certainly not likely to return a visit or continue to interact with another blogger who doesn't take the time for me. I'm glad you wrote this, because I think a lot of people need to read it. Forming a strong blogging community is like forming strong friendships, you get out of it what you put into it!!

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  11. That's really awful - I think that even the most conscientious of us is guilty of skimming (I know I've done it in the past) but I really, really hate the cursory comments that I sometime get wherein it's obvious that people have not read the content and they really do suck and so I try to treat other bloggers/writers with the level of respect that I hope they will show me -- which means actually reading things and not just commenting for a sake of commenting. I'll admit that sometimes if I'm rushed I do still leave the occasional skimmed read comment but I really do try to avoid it.

    xoxo ~ Courtney
    http://sartorialsidelines.com

    P.S. my least favorite is the "follow me because I followed you" thing. So annoying.

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  12. i admittedly do that sometimes too. but it's a good reminder to slow down and take in what people are saying.

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  13. I haven't had this happen to me but I think I would be pretty sad if it did. I try to visit/comment on as many blogs as I can but if i see a long one and don't have the time I just leave it till I can come back.

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  14. On occasion I skim blogs rather than fully reading it. I also like the idea of setting a goal for reading 10 blogs a day! I will have to try that. Cant wait to hear what you have to share!

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  15. Ouch. I think it's really brave of you to share this. I've never skipped an entire post but I've definitely skimmed when there was a huge block of text.

    Sometimes I think it's strange why bloggers do this. Anyone who writes knows about how much effort you have to put in. But at the same time, if you have hundreds of comments to respond to, you're not going to put in 100% on each blog.

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  16. I often find myself skimming through a post, especially one filled with lots of text. Instead of reading comments first if I plan to comment, I leave my comment and then go back and read through. (Unless it's a question, because that would just be redundant.)

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  17. What a really cool picture!!!

    Ok just kidding (sorry had to do it). I know what you mean as I also find it so terribly annoying when people comment just for the sake of trying to get readers or followers (even worse when people go to your blog and just leave a "thanks for your comment" and seem to have nothing to say about your blog. My solution has been to simply 'spam' these comments.

    But there are some blogs where the text is just too dry and way way too long (and at times, I'm sorry to say) a tad bit self-absorbed. I am really sorry to hear that this happened to you (I am sure we have all been guilty of doing this though).

    Hope you had a lovely Christmas,

    Paola

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  18. This does happen a lot and its really annoying. I mean if you dont have time to read the post then why comment?

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  19. I always read the whole story. After a few months I feel like I know some of you :)

    I can't wait to hear what you have to say in 2012!

    P.S. That stinks about the husband. Maybe in 2012, she'll find it in her heart to forgive you. Maybe she's reading this post right!

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  20. Sry bout two comments...but I forgot to say

    "now".

    Ok, that's all :) haha

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  21. I completely agree with u about reading posts!! In 90% I read the whole post, if it's too long and I don't have so much time I pass through it quickly but carefully and than I comment! Anyway thank u for your lovely comment on my blog!:) Merry Christmas and all the best!! kisses
    Jelena (glamfabchameleon.blogspot.com)

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  22. You can always tell when someone leaves a comment without reading, and it gets frustrating to see those comments over and over. It's made me not want to comment on blogs as much as I used to, which is sad.

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  23. I am so sorry to hear that story! That must have been an awful experience. I agree with you- I think a lot of bloggers feel the need to get their followers up as quickly as possible, without giving thought to what kind of blog will naturally attract followers. Horray to you for saying something. :)

    XO,

    Sam

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  24. I love it when people take the time to leave a comment as I don't get very many and so when someone does leave me one I do appreciate it. I can't say that has ever happened but it is defiantly a good reminder on bloggy manners.

    PS: Happy New Year!

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  25. a very important lesson, glad you shared it! It is a very good reminded to be a genuine blogger.

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  26. Oh hey, you like books? I like books too! This is an awesome picture!

    KIDDING.

    Thanks for sharing your experience so candidly. I can't imagine your horror and embarrassment, not to mention that poor woman's. This is a great overlooked topic to address, I'm really glad you have.

    Melina Bee has a post on her blog about how to leave great comments. It should be required reading for anyone with a keyboard.

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  27. I think we've all been guilty of skimming at times, but thoroughly reading a post is always best practice!

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  28. Wow! That must have been a horrible situation for you to go through but like you said, a lesson was learned. I really try to read each blog I visit, but there have been a few occasions when I skimmed. Now I am reminded to take the time to read each & every word.

    http://www.theprettyfactor.blogspot.com

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  29. definitely a great point to bring to light, elle. with the rise of personal/fashion/beauty/lifestyle blogging, it's easy to latch on to the popular bloggers and comment just for commenting's sake in order to try to get your blog more popular/visible. however, it's always obvious (as you pointed out) when someone hasn't read the post. vague comments don't add value to the conversation...and isn't that what the blogosphere was designed for? an open area for everyone to talk about what they love, not just what magazines and other tastemakers say they love? that said, i love perusing your blog and am glad that you put this out there...here's to a great 2012 of blogging, making blog friends and starting and participating in great online conversations!

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  30. Wow. What a situation to learn from! I've never understood that concept, and was introduced to it for the first time when I saw a blogger mention how it hurts when it happens to her. I'm not sure if anyone has ever done it to me, except for the obvious 'spam-type' comments. I always think people pull out a specific thing that interests them about a post to comment on. This is why I find it hard to understand how some people can read SO MANY blogs to increase their readership!! I tried that a bit over the summer and felt like their are so many relationships I 'sorta' started and then fell by the wayside because I had forgotten who they were in the deluge of visiting blogs. Such a sad affair, when some of my closest friends are blog friends I have met in real life. I think this is one of the reasons my blog 'sped up' so quick and then slowed down SO much, because I missed the intimacy of truly reading a blog and understanding someone's life. I just met a blog friend this week in real life and am so excited that perhaps it may have worked. Getting to know someone is so much better than looking at their pictures and thinking you know them without really realizing what and who they are all about.

    Oh my, I have left a novel. If it doesn't go through, I shall email it to you :) .

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  31. well said! People need to start reading books more often and stop hiding behind them.....


    hey im joking! I read your post and yes I know what you mean! you can always tell when someone doesn't read your post! thanx for sharing elle. about the wedding pictures girl, everything happens for a reason. I bet you read everyone's blog before you comment know

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  32. You go girl! Nicely said....I TRY to not leave comments unless the are specific to the post or I feel I have something of value to add. I appreciate your post and may need to tweet a link to it! :-)

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  33. I've definitely been guilty of this in the past - instead, I've put off reading blogs until I know I have the time to actually read/comment on them with my full attention!
    When my grandfather died this past year, I put a post up about him and I can't tell you the amount of comments I had that were like, "Great pictures!" Like, really?
    That being said, I do love the picture that you posted, but I love your honesty even more! xox

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  34. ohmygosh! elle! that is terrible! ;-( i'm new to this whole blogging thing, but wow- i will certainly remember this story. thank you for sharing.. and happy new year! ;-)

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  35. What a great lesson to learn. I am sure I have been guilty of the same thing, but have tried to make an effort to read posts before I comment. How sad for that girl! Hopefully we will all learn from this and take the time to read each others blog more thoroughly!

    Nonetheless, I hope you had a great holiday ;)

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  36. I completely agree with you.....read the post, then thoughtfully comment. I hate it when it is done to me, so it is a great reminder to not do it to anyone else.
    xo kb

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  37. Wow sometimes i'm short on time and I have to blaze through blogs but I'll be more careful now!

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  38. This is a great post because I think it's something we have all done before. I think a good rule is that if your just catching up on blogs quickly, don't leave a comment!

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  39. I 100% agree with you on this. If you don't have time to read the post immediately, you can always come back later, read it and then comment. You've pointed out something very relevant and important. Thanks for that.

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  40. Well said, Elle. I think it's difficult to take the time to read every single post of every single blog I follow, but I try my best! Not that I haven't been guilty of skipping to the comments before, but I make a habit of only commenting if I've actually taken the time to read.

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  41. I totally agree with you. I've written a post where people flat out ask me how to make something I just told how to make! I'm so sorry about the situation you were in, but it's a great example to others!

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  42. This post is why I follow you! I love reading your comments as much as your posts. I love your tweets and how much support you give us bloggers. You are honest and own it. You are a very special blogger in my opinion because you also write about your true feelings and even though you might hesitate to post you follow through :) I will continue to follow you for this and more! A pin on "pinterest" brought me to your blog and I am loving it! Thank you Elle for all you write ;)

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  43. eek. i'm sure we're all guilty of skimming posts and missing out on the real content! this is a great reminder to actually take the time to read each post before commenting!

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  44. Very good lesson! I've had lots of comments that pepole have left me & I can tell that they never read a word that I posted. I'm sure I've been guilty of that as well from time to time - moving forward to 2012 I wont comment unless fully reading a post & giving a worthwhile comment :)

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  45. this is so true! I once did something similar and I was so embarassed!

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  46. very true! great point and reminder to us all!

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  47. Thanks for sharing this! I have a hard time reading long text blogs, but I agree that if someone took time to write it, then I should take time to read it if I am going to make a comment.

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  48. OMG...I can't imagine how you felt when she emailed that to you. I always read every post but I sometimes read very fast which probably is not a good idea either. Thanks for the post..I will keep this in mind before I comment on anyone's blog.

    xx
    Heel in Mint

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  49. i'm so glad you left that comment on my post so that i could come over here and read this post asap.

    what happened to you is hard, but i'm really glad you shared your story. i, like pretty much everyone else, have skimmed posts before, but i really try to comment if i have something to say.

    but this is definitely a post that all bloggers need to read. seriously, love it! you get so much more from blogging when you put the time into it.

    going to FB this now, luv.

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  50. I like your point and you illustrate it with a good example.

    When people use us (by, for example, commenting in a perfunctory way simply to get us to follow their blog), it eventually becomes apparent and no real connection is made. What's the sense in building a following if your connection to them is superficial? I blog to make real friends, not inflate my stats in artificial ways.

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  51. I definitely think you have a point, but you could also cut yourself some slack and skip the lashing. You're human. I started blogging almost 3 years ago and back then I barely was doing anything but blogging. I didn't have any children, was in school very part time. I read over 30 blogs a day and left comments like Hansel and Grettle scattered breadcrumbs in the forest. Now I barely have time to read 5 a day, but I have my favorite 5 and read them religiously. I never leave a comment unless it's well thought out and totally pertinent to the post. If I read a blog quickly I just have learned to not comment. When I started blogging in 2009 I used to get 30+ comments a day because all I was doing was commenting on others' blogs. Now I'm lucky if I get 6. I'm happy though. I know what I'm blogging about it true to who I am and if my visitors are inclined to comment without me initiating then great. If not, well, I'm really not after the comments anymore, anyway. But good point. Seriously.

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  52. I think we have all been guilty of simply skimmy. I usually do because I have a 2 year old to run after and I don't have the time. Like now, I'm on my phone while getting her ready for bed. I find a few moments here and there to actually read.

    Yanira
    http://manolosmanicuresthismom.blogspot.com

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  53. I think we have all been guilty of simply skimmy. I usually do because I have a 2 year old to run after and I don't have the time. Like now, I'm on my phone while getting her ready for bed. I find a few moments here and there to actually read.

    Yanira
    http://manolosmanicuresthismom.blogspot.com

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  54. Elle that is a really good post! I totally agree with you and thanks for making me more aware of this-skimming posts just to leave a comment isn't particularly good etiquette. I like what you said-someone took the time to write the post so we should take the time to read it!

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  55. Thank you for sharing, I totally agree! It is definitely disheartening when you put so much work and love into a post and then receive insincere comments. I know we are all busy but being genuine and sincere doesn't take that long and means a lot more in the end.

    www.socalsophisticate.blogspot.com

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  56. Thanks for stopping by! You will see me again around these parts, promise!

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  57. This is a great post! I have noticed the same thing too on many of my posts-and I have been guilty of this in the past as well...but I started taking the time to read the posts of people who write thoughtful comments on my blog/visit often-because I want to know yall and learn about you! Again, great post!

    xx

    Erin @ http://www.trufflesnruffles.com/

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  58. Wow thanks for sharing that story and I hope people do learn from it! I too feel the same way when people leave generic comments and it's obvious they didn't read the post at all. Can't wait to see what you have in store for 2012!

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  59. I always read the post and I can tell which of my readers do read and don't. Frankly, I've cut my posts down SO far that it's never more than 7 sentences. At this point if I cut it down anymore, I don't think I need to write anything. I completely understand your post in its entirety.

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  60. How awful you must have felt! I'm just getting into the blogging world so the advice is appreciated.

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  61. I'm afraid that's not true!
    Skim all you want, but copying comments is obvious.
    #eyescrub

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  62. agreed! i'm happy i found this blog!

    www.shervinsworld.com

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  63. I really liked what you said and how you said it.
    Congratulations (kidding)

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  64. Oh man, my stomach dropped when I read the line about what that wedding post was really about.

    Sometimes when I get a few comments that are way off the mark I feel like writing a post afterwards setting them straight. But then I figure - chances are the same thing will happen again.

    There aren't too many tricky etiquette rules when it comes to blogging but taking the time to read a post before you comment is definitely a biggun.

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  65. Elle, this is such a great post. You are so thoughtful with you commenting (and you have even pointed out on my blog when people have not actually read my post and then left comments that made no sense). I try to keep my text short and to the point as often as possible, on hopes of keeping the reader's attention. I also try not to leave comments when I don't have much to say (although sometimes all I really want to say is "that is a great picture"). Thanks for doing a post about this.

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  66. So true, darling!
    Well stated!

    xoxox,
    CC

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  67. that has already happened to me too! since then i always spend the right time reading peoples post! its part of being a blogger!
    i'm a follower!

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  68. OMG! I know I hate hate when I get comments like "cute picture" and I have a title written in a pretty font... Its not a picture of me or my family, or an APPLE! I appreciate YOU and YOU reading my posts daily, it means the world to me. I'm glad you posted about this- I hope someone will read this and learn without having to experience a sad email... Im sorry you went through that but hey its made you A BETTER BLOGGER!


    So life lessons!!!

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  69. This is a wonderful post and a very poignant reminder. I wish we didn't feel so pressured to comment just because. I read so many blogs, but rarely comment. It doesn't mean I'm not a fan, or not enjoying posts, I just don't feel authentic if I'm not leaving much to the conversation. (That said, I do appreciate whenever someone comments on my blog - double edged sword ...)

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  70. This is such a powerful post, Elle; but something that I think definitely needed to be said in the blogging world. It is amazing just how many people will simply read the comments and follow suit from there.

    With a little attention to detail, and truly reading the post, you have the ability to truly form lasting bonds and relationships with fellow bloggers. And that's part of the fun of blogging, right? :)

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  71. As the others have said, great post indeed! I think we have all kinda fallen into that trap at one time or the other...of commenting at a post without reading the entire thing. Thank you for sharing what has happened to you, as it is a great learning lesson for all of us:)

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  72. I totally agree with you, I feel you.

    I hope your holidays where amazing, that Santa was good to you this year and in that at New Year's Eve you will have the best time of your life :).

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  73. hi Elle, you are so right! i never comment back to bloggers who just write on my posts the following:

    "nice post"
    "gorgeous, love it"
    "i like your blog, please visit mine"

    i think is rude and with lack of a genuine interest in the hard work i put into my blog!

    but then again, there are awesome followers that really share their opinion with me about my stuff, and of course i'm thankful for them :)

    kisses girl,
    teresa
    www.trend-ish.com

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  74. Totally! I had the same irritation a while ago. xoxo
    http://hellofridaybypaik.blogspot.com/

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  75. I feel like most bloggers are guilty of this (I know I am!), and it is sad! If we just took the time to read the posts, blogging would be that much better! Thanks so much for addressing this, because it does get out of hand. Great post doll


    -Ellie

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  76. You are so gorgeous. Love your style and blog so much. Please follow my blog...

    ♥Love from Antalya♥

    http://antalya-magnificent-city.blogspot.com

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  77. I just ignore the comments that obviously are from people who didn't read the post. That's so sad about the lady who lost her husband! That's a tough way to learn a lesson. :( My problem is I end up not commenting at all when I'm pressed for time. I need to be more involved in the blogs I read!

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  78. That really is a good point. I used to do the same thing when I first started commenting. Fortunately, I never really ran into a problem with it. But when I started noticing comments on my blog that were clearly from people who hadn't read the whole post, I realized that how hurt that made me, I was doing the same to someone else. Now, I try really hard to read everything in the blog before commenting and if I don't want to read the whole things, I don't comment.

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  79. Thank you for opening up and sharing that story! Yes, I read the whole thing ;)

    I slipped up once, but not like that, but still can relate. It amazes me when I get comments that have NOTHING to do with my post, but I guess that's why I don't make an effort to read their blogs again, and it's also why I don't become blog friends with them. We all make mistakes, and I'm sure we're not the only bloggers to do that. :) Thanks again for sharing!

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  80. Holy cow. This post just "punched me in the gut" because I am guilty of skimming myself, and now - well, I just made a vow to read everything in its entirety.

    So thank you:)

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  81. I know exactly what you are talking about and it is so frustrating. You are totally right, you can tell if someone has read your post or not. I always try to make an effort to read people's posts fully and comment thoughtfully. People pour themselves into their posts so the least I can do is respect them and read their thoughts and feelings. I know that I like it when people comment on my posts thoughtfully so I like to do the same thing for others. =)

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  82. Oi, I admit to occasionally skimming something if it's a huge block of text and I'm on a time crunch (this was interesting I read it all!) I'm usually pretty good about reading the whole thing though because I don't want to slip up like that. I always try to comment on something specifically so the person knows I actually paid attention.
    But yeah, we've all gotten comments like "wow cool post check out my blog too!" or "what a great story!" that have nothing to do with anything. Usually just people trying to get more followers. Sigh...

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  83. I've been rolling through the comments on this post...and a few people are guilty of exactly what you're talking about. Shamelessly plugging their blogs...but on this post it's especially embarrassing -_-

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  84. What a lesson and I agree, don't comment if you are not going to add to the discussion/conversation in some way or the other. Take a minute to read the post through. People are so bad at reading these days and only want to promote themselves.

    Happy New Year! Here's to lots of fabulous blogging in 2012 :)

    x Milana

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  85. I completely understand where you are coming from. I get those comments. I always try to read the complete post and leave a comment but if I'm behind I skim. I will definitely stop skimming in the future. Great point!

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  86. wow that sure did generate lots of feedback yes :) systematic of time poor women juggling 101 things no doubt ... do you think anyone really means any genuine harm ... I think not - cheers le

    ps looking forward to your falsies how to post - see I even read the one above :)

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  87. Admission. Like a lot of others who commented, I skim from time to time. Thanks for the reminder. Great post.

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  88. Ooh, I love books!

    Just kidding! I know what you mean. It really is so obvious when people don't read the whole post. Amazing how often that happens. I'm trying to be a better blogger all around. Better posts. Better insights. Better comments.

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  89. I've been on both sides of this. I'm guilty of occasionally skimming/commenting and then I've gotten the you-can-tell-they-didn't-read-the-post comments. This is such a great post, I'm glad you addressed the issue! Happy New Year girl!

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  90. Thick skin, indeed. Even worse are the creepy anonymous comments that need deleting.

    Cheers to a wonderful 2012. I am looking forward to learning more from you.

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  91. Loved reading this. I started blogging not too long ago and if it is one thing I have learned it is that the sincere comments I get on my blog can honestly make my day, I put a lot of time into my posts as do so many other amazing bloggers that its nice when people fully read the post and comment! XOX

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  92. I totally agree and vie seen this happen plenty of times. That's why I actually take out time and actually read the post :)

    Good post Elle

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  93. Awesome post!!! In fact I came over here because I saw tour comment on Jenni's blog. Which I totally related with! I have 2 small babies, work 55 hours a week outside the home and have a husband as well. I also am training for a marathon and try to cook and are in my "spare" time. I must admit I too am guilty of not reading the whole post and commenting. It's not a nice thing to do. Bunts so jars to figure out what to do. I love your honesty. This is a beautiful post and great scaling. Thank you:)

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  94. Amen! That's a definite pet peeve of mine as well. Thanks for sharing this post with me! :)

    And in response to your comment the other day, I wanted to say that I completely agree with you that questions posed in a comment should be answered if possible, and I always answer them (unless they were clearly answered in the post-grrr). If I ever haven't, it was definitely just an accident!

    As far as replying to all comments goes, that's something the individual blogger has to decide if they can do based on how much time they are willing and able to spend on blogging. I'm really glad you've been able to do it so far--looks like you have a great community going here!

    Also, re: having questions answered via email, you might consider adding your email address to your Blogger profile. I have all my comments sent right to my inbox, so I reply to questions directly that way, as I know most other bloggers do as well. I feel like an asshole when I have to visit a blog and answer a question when I may not have time to also leave a thoughtful comment on the person's post... lol!

    Such a balancing act. I say everyone just do the best you can! :) (but definitely do NOT comment if you haven't read the post! YUCK!)

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  95. That mistake was...well, I know I'd not stop blaming myself if something like that had happened to me, so I know how you feel. Luckily, I've not had any such experience yet; I'm fairly new to blogging, plus I always read the posts before commenting (and also, leaving comments on multiple blogs takes up SO MUCH of my time, so I don't do it unless I actually mean it. Networking isn't my strongest point).

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